A 20-year-old college dropout decided to return to school after a year in her boyfriend’s family’s restaurant business. For the sake of her story, we’ll call her Jane.
Jane’s parents set aside $30,000 for her college education. But instead, her parents spent the money to renovate their kitchen after Jane moved in with her boyfriend, despite her parents’ advice not to.
When Jane realized what her parents had done, she was shocked and angry. She asked for access to her college account. However, her parents refused, citing their previous conversation in which they had explicitly stated that they would spend the money on something else if she dropped out of college.
Jane’s parents encouraged her to go to a cheaper college or work part-time while in school to pay for her education. In addition, her mother offered her financial assistance.
However, the father is hesitant as they approach retirement age and fall short of their retirement goals. The father also offered Jane to stay at their house for free so she could focus on paying for her college education.
However, Jane is ignoring her mother’s phone calls, and now the father wonders if he is being a jerk in this situation. Here’s how the internet reacted to his concern.
This is an expensive lesson.
“This situation is cruel to your daughter, but you are not a jerk,” one of them explained. “She decided to drop out, and along with that, you told her that you were going to spend the rest of your college money on something else.
I’m also guessing that during her expulsion, she presented her decision as permanent because she said college wasn’t for her, which means you don’t know how long it would take Jane to go back to college if she came back at all. .
“But I thought you were bluffing” is an inadequate response. You can’t use this line when you’re making a life-changing decision and the people who fund you are setting conditions. She had just learned an expensive lesson. Another agreed: “It was a gift and she didn’t use it and her reaction to the situation shows how ungrateful she is.”
you are a moron
“Did you spend all 30 thousand on kitchen renovation? This is not a retirement goal; she took only a year off. Have you spent everything? You’re a jerk because you didn’t foresee or think that she might regret her boyfriend and spend the money so quickly.
Many kids make mistakes during college, mainly because it was only a year off. You didn’t have to jump to use this money. I understand that she made a choice and made a mistake about the boy, but you could be her safety net.
Parents should be held accountable for their children making stupid mistakes and making choices. But instead, you used it as an opportunity to make sure she couldn’t bounce back quickly because of something cosmetic and superficial, and you did it quickly. Which is rude.”
not compassionate
“You are a moron. You have been saving money for your daughter’s education for 18 years, but have not hesitated to use the money for other purposes as soon as she deviated from the traditional path of education. If you really meant money for her education, you might be able to keep it for her in case she goes back to school.
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Often people who did not complete their four-year diploma at one time still return to complete their education later or to enter a vocational school. This is your money. Your daughter made the wrong decision to leave school, and you warned her that the money would go to other uses.
Therefore, technically you are not wrong and your daughter is facing the consequences of her decisions. However, people make mistakes, especially when they are young, and you decide that this will be a much bigger mistake for your daughter than it should be.
It was your right to spend money as you wish and redo the kitchen, but it was not a compassionate decision from a parent’s point of view. What do you think? Did this Reddit dad do the right thing, or do you think he’s a jerk in the script? This article is inspired by the Internet and does not necessarily represent the views or opinions of Wealthy Nickel.
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