A Reddit user recently shared his story of taking a picture of his husband’s card and using it to pay for Uber and food. She was surprised by her husband’s reaction and took to the internet to try and defend her position.
Borrowing or stealing?
The original poster (OP) explained that she and her husband had been together for eight years and married for three years. They do not have children together, but they plan to try from next year. They do not have a joint bank account, but they have chosen to keep their money separate to keep track of whose money belongs to whom and avoid financial problems.
The OP said she planned a small meeting with an aunt she hadn’t seen in two years. She said that she was originally going to pay for her part of the evening, but she lost her debit card the night before, so she reported the loss and could no longer use it.
Her husband wasn’t going to invite her to dinner since he was working, so she took a picture of his card and saved it to her Uber app, and took the money to pay her round trip fare as well as her meal. dinner.
She said her Uber was $32 one way, $46 return, and $42 food. Her husband saw the accusations, and when she returned home, he told her that he was disappointed and hurt that she did this and that he was trying to save money. He said that it was not about money, but about principle. He called OP a thief and said that said a lot about her character because she didn’t ask.
The OP said she thinks that since they are married, he shouldn’t look at things that way.
The masses are weighed
The Reddit community was definitely not on the OP’s side in this situation.
One user said, “YTA for doing this behind his back. If you had told him about this and explained the situation, he would probably have gone to meet you, but in this way you stole money from his account.
Decision could lead to serious trust issues
Another user offered a more detailed explanation of why the OP is wrong here, with much sharper wording.
“I am deeply concerned that you are almost 30 years old and you seem to genuinely not understand why what you did was not just unethical, or that when your husband tells you that you are a thief, he is not just leading yourself in an unkind way. or by saying unpleasant things to you, he is trying to make you understand that you just committed a crime. If I were him I would be VERY VERY VERY DISAPPOINTED and it has nothing to do with how much or how little of his money you took. This is because you just did a scam without hesitation and either literally don’t understand what you did or don’t think it matters much.”
He further compared her actions to identity theft, a criminal act.
“Taking a picture of someone else’s bank card or credit card and entering that information into your own apps to spend their money is something you will get a criminal record for and possibly go to jail… You act like you don’t understand. why is he irritated, and that it’s the same as taking the $20 bill he left on the nightstand? (Which would still be stealing, but… not like that.)
Again, You literally started this post by discussing how you and your husband decided to keep separate finances. What part of the phrase “you agreed that his money and yours are not intended for free exchange” did you not understand?
He clarified that it wasn’t really about the amount of money, but that the OP didn’t think it was a big deal to steal from her husband, and noted that this level of distrust didn’t bode well for their marriage. .
Was it the OP’s fault that she took her husband’s money? Should she have asked first? How would you react in this situation?
You can read the full discussion here.
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